No Respect if not Natural

by Tracy
(Iowa)

I personally have no respect for women that accept all the painkillers and epidurals. Childbirth has been done naturally since the beginning of time and unless a C-section is needed, there is no reason to introduce drugs into the system when you are carrying a child. I had my daughter completely natural and yes, IT HURT, but childbirth isn't supposed to be a day at the beach. I got through it just fine and my daughter had no drugs in her system when she was born. They tell women, don't drink, don't smoke, don't eat tuna, don't drink coffee, etc., etc. but it's OK to inject drugs into the system when she's in labor? I think there should be doctors who stand up and quit offering all of these painkilling drugs. It's labor, it hurts and then it's over. Be a real woman and don't use medications to give birth.

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Aug 12, 2010
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What??
by: Anonymous

I can agree with you that yes, women have been giving birth for years without pain reliefand sometimes we do rely on drugs a lot. However we are also in an age where because of the advances in medicine we have, people are living twice as long, the amount of women dying while in labor is very low and the same for infant mortality. Though i am in favour of the natural view, i would never be so arrogant or naive to say that the natural way is the way or theres no way. Different women have different pain thresholds...some labors go by like a breeze compared to others. I will approach labour naturally and if i feel the need for pain relief where i just can't handle it i will definately opt ofr drugs...and that is just an evolution of comfort we have developed in the 21st century. Every woman must suit their own needs and at the end of the day the priority is that mum and baby are happy and healthy.

Jul 14, 2010
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oh no not another dumb bitch
by: Mila

First of all I think your the same woman just trying to prove that someone else actually shares your stupid and small minded views.If you are someone diff then go take your bible preaching ways back to the stone ages where they belong. Firstly not everyone believes in God as u would see him/her and if your convictions are so strong would you refuse chemotherapy if you got cancer? Medical science has evolved to help us..I wouldnt be pregnant myself if it wasnt for the wonders that they can do. Many many women died in chilbirth back before we were able to help and I think that you are one of a minority of people who either need to be dragged into the 21st century kicking and screaming or keep your idiotic and frankly ignorant and self important views to yourself.

Jul 13, 2010
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i completley agree
by: Anonymous

yes, i agree 100% with you! i do not know if you are a christian, but in the bible because adam and eve sinned gd said CHILDBIRTH WILL BE PAINFUL. i mean HELLO, people! if god said it, then thats what i believe, and people are such wimps. adam and eve gave birth to three kids and no meds, so get over it!

Jul 08, 2010
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OMG, This woman is a mother???!!! her poor children!!
by: Anonymous

When i first read this i was convinced it must have been a man making stupid remarks! so i was very shocked to continue reaading only to discover not only were u a woman but a mother!!! as a pregnant woman, due any day now, i find ur comments ridiculous and offensive!!!! im sure im not the only 1 who looks on the internet for helpful and encouraging advice, only to find ur small minded bigoted bullshit! this is a very scary time for any pregnant woman and finding your stupid comments only makes that worse. As a mother yourself u should do your best to encourage, is this not what you would do for your own child?? probably not judging by wot uv already written!! its a womans personal choice, and right to choose the best options for her and her baby. who ru 2 judge??!! if u cant cope with the pain y continue in unnessesary agony. personally i would prefer my child to b born being healthy and into a calm and relaxed atmosphere not 1 where i am in excrutiating pain and screaming!!! im sure midwifes would not use pain relief if it was harmful to the baby. at the end of the day there r no medals given out 2 women who didnt have pain relief!!! join the real world will u!!!!

Jul 03, 2010
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feel sorry for ur kids
by: Mila

Id hate to be a member of ur household since u are obviously bigoted,small minded and absolutely empathy free.

Jun 23, 2010
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pain killers make it not natural?
by: Anonymous

Just because you choose not to hurt the hell out of yourself, doesn't mean you aren't having your baby naturally. Natural doesn't have anything to do with pain, it is the fact that you deliver vaginally. I think people like you are stupid. There is nothing about pain that should make you feel superior.

If you chose to go through all the unnecessary pain, that is fine, suit yourself. But telling other women that you have no respect for them is just mean! I bet if your grandmother or great-grandmother had the choice to not go through the pain, they would have done it.

Jun 18, 2010
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How dare you!!!!!!
by: Kooky

You are ridiculous I had a child 1 month ago and went through the whole thing. you are totally rude,despicable I cant believe you would judge other people just coz they have painkillers WHO CARES? so thats my stand dont ever judge people unless you have a right.!!!!!!!!

Jun 11, 2010
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Really?
by: Anonymous

No respect? Really? I'm surprised you could see the video from way up there on your high horse. Do you take medicine when you have a headache? Probably. Well that makes you not quite as good as me. Hard to believe people are still so ignorant these days!

Jun 07, 2010
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hmm...
by: Anonymous

You must have written your comment for the mere sake of getting other women all riled up. You must get a high off of upsetting other women because I can't believe you actually believe what you just typed out. I have never met anyone who has been so arrogant as to say they don't have any respect for mothers who choose differently than they do. Too outragous to be true. So, I choose to dimiss your comment and move on to more important things in life. However, if in fact you were serious in your statement and opinion, then I wish you the best because you must have a very difficult time in life with such a closed mind.

Jun 06, 2010
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narrow minded
by: tracey

how dare u make a coment like that !!! my daughter is 5 mths old and i had painrelief and it doesnt make me any less of a mum . every birth is different i had to have a forcep delively at the last min after a long labour and i really dont think it is fair for u to judge me or anyone else for that matter you complete and narrow minded prick!!!!

May 16, 2010
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Proud but Ignorant.
by: You sound very selfish

I'm having my second daughter due 7/22/10. My first was born 7/31/03 weighing 8 lbs 14 oz. It was a natural birth without any pain killers. That was my plan and I will do it again if the procedure goes well and the outcome allows me too. Pregnancy is unpredictable and thank God for medicine. If it wasn't for our new updated medical research many woman will not survive in comparison to history when no medicine existed. As far as pain killers go...It is a matter of choice. That is why it's available. Not everyone is like you. Learn to accept that everyone is different. It's ignorant and rude for you to say that you disrespect other woman because you do not agree with their choice. Boohoo, grow up. Some pregnancies go easy others are complicated. What's most important during and after delivery is for mom and baby to be in healthy state and not how she delivered.

May 13, 2010
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respect ?
by: Anonymous

I really feel for your children becouse they have a woman not a mother that empathizes with them as humans should but rather forces others to her own warped opinions. as compared to a mother that loves and empathizes with her children and others so that we make a better society that is advance for the best of human kind.

May 12, 2010
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get a life!
by: Anonymous

That's great a natural childbirth worked for you but many women have died during childbirth in the past because they did not have the hospitals or science we have now to aid along the process. When you have heart surgery or cancer later, will you say 'no' to drugs then too? where do you draw then line and where do you get off on your high horse? Find something else to be proud about than a process. You must not have much going on in to toot your horn THIS MUCH. What a slap in the face to all the great mom's out there who chose to have an epidural. Did you ever consider that humans suffer enough and maybe even more than we did back when natural births were the only way? Shouldn't we try to ameliorate suffering on this planet as much as possible? Great if you can go au natural but many cannot and I'd suggest deflating your grandiose ego over something that's so trivial in comparison to what other women have contributed to this society.

May 02, 2010
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R.E.S.P.E.C.T find out what it means to me
by: Anonymous

I was going to comment on how bigoted and narrow the argument or rather doctrine of No Respect if not Natural was. Then I saw the other contending comments, so I will not bore you with TOO many oppositional comments to this woman who sits on a throne in a sky of perfection. My dear... sorry to say 'my dear' and sound condescending, however patronising and haughty medicine is a taste of your own... everyone is each to their own. I have done natural also, but I would never assume that the choices I made are the right choices for everybody. Everybody has different situations/circumstances/thresholds/bodies and that is something you need to 'respect'. Or better yet, aquaint yourself with the word 'respect' before you use it so loosely.

Apr 07, 2010
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Open your mind
by: Anonymous

I will not even insult you or express any anger towards what are clearly narrow-minded ideas. Your opinions are your own,what you decide to do with your body is your own decision. But don't put other people down. My mother did not have any painkillers giving birth to me or my siblings. 4 natural births. But she doesn't think that makes her more of a woman. Simply because it does not make her more of a woman. Painkillers weren't available to her,even if they were and she'd taken them,would she be any less of a woman,a mother,a role model to me? If you don't have respect for other women they lose respect for you. You have lost the respect of both those who have had painkillers as well as those who haven't. Along with those of us who haven't even given birth yet - expectant or otherwise. Open your mind. Don't bring shame to your childbirth by bringing in pride.

Apr 05, 2010
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I want it all
by: Kristie

Wow Tracy, you must be so proud of yourself, much more of a woman than me for not having pain killers....I bet your daughter will grow up so much better than mine for having such an open-minded, un-opinionated mother??!!
What are you on?? maybe you didnt take anything while in childbirth but ur definitely on something now!!

Mar 18, 2010
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Are you serious?
by: Anonymous

Firstly, I honestly think that you need to re-think your attitude and opinions towards this subject matter. I am a firm believer in the freedom of speech but, seriously, your comments/opinion is out of order. Judging is not a nice thing and nor is putting up with pain just because you 'WANT TO BE A REAL WOMAN!'
I have two children, my first was the worst and yeah I DID have drugs, in fact, I was screaming for them before they were offered! My second went more smoothly - YOU WILL BE PLSD TO KNOW, that I became a REAL WOMAN and survived childbirth without any drugs or painkillers.
I know that childbirth is MEANT to be painful but why would you make it even worse for yourself when there is help available.
AND for the record I am a great mom, I love my children, in fact they are my world and for someone to say that they don't respect me because I accepted some painkillers when I was in labour is just, well, DISRESPECTFUL!!!

Mar 16, 2010
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my goodness
by: trisha

your comment is absolutely rediculous!!! why go through the pain when you dont have to, doesnt make you any less of a mother when your child is born!! some people find it more painful than others! people like you find it great to say "oh i did it all one my own"! than actually telling them bout your child!

Mar 15, 2010
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how rude
by: Nikki

I ALSO HAD BOTH MY CHILDREN NATURALL BUT I WOULD NEVER JUDGE OTHERS IT DOESNOT HAVE TO BE A UNPLEASENT EXPERIENCE AND IF PEOPLE WANT DRUGS TO GET RID OF THE PAIN THEN SO BE WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE :-(

Mar 11, 2010
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DISGUSTING
by: Anonymous

That is an absoloubtley DISGUSTING comment to make. Not a real woman for accepting painkillers?!! Thats ridiculous, narrow minded and I feel for your poor children having a mother so disrespectful and such silly opinions.

Mar 06, 2010
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no respect...haha
by: anon

that has to be THE rudest and most disrespectful comment I have ever read!! How dare you judge others based on what YOU went through. I'm sure you disagree with pitocin then also? Well guess what, my sister had a baby 2 months ago, she swore up and down NO MEDS, until her babys life was at stake! so what, shes not a "real woman" because she chose medication to speed up her labour to save her babys life? And the pain meds she swore she'd never take, but had to because of the extremely long (and other personal matters due to her..) labour? You are clearly uneducated, and I'm sure your one of those mothers who are all high up on her horse because she went natural... are you a doctor now? and you know whats best for every woman out there? you don't know all the circumstances and its women like you who make other women feel like less worthy mothers!!! Your an awful person for saying that and one day...it will come back to you, who knows, maybe your next child won't be so easy... maybe you'll be the one begging for an epidural!! Ugh...you make my blood boil!

Feb 22, 2010
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to no respect
by: Anonymous

you are very disrespectful of other peoples choices, there is nothing wrong with not wanting to go through with natural childbirth, to each theyre own, you have no right to judge

Feb 20, 2010
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no respect
by: Anonymous

to no respect.you are an idot

Feb 15, 2010
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No respect?
by: Anonymous

That comment is disrespectful! Just because you chose natural doesn't mean it's good for others. Who needs your respect anyway? You are not an integral part of every woman's life. Medical advancements were made for a reason. I guess you'd get offended if women of 200 years ago said they had no respect for today's woman's who uses sanitary pads and tampons and should use what they did then? You're an idiot. Have all the natural births you want but don't put down others. You never know why a person may have to take meds. It's not your business and who cares if they don't have your respect. You are not God!