(be sure to check out the Sex during pregnancy video below)
One question that many moms to be would like the know the answer to is whether or not it’s a good idea to have sex during pregnancy. Unfortunately, it can be hard to get a straight answer from people you know, and many women have trouble getting up the courage to talk to their doctors. There’s no one simple answer, too. Every woman’s pregnancy is different, meaning that for some, sex during pregnancy is no trouble at all. For others, morning sickness, weight gain, and various aches and pains mean that romance is the last thing on their mind. However, sex during pregnancy can be a lot of fun, and isn’t necessarily a problem. Here’s when and how to enjoy some special time with your partner while you’re expecting.
In a normal pregnancy, it’s safe to engage in sex during every state
In a normal pregnancy, it’s safe to engage in sex during every stage. “Normal” in this situation means that you’re considered a low risk for pre-term labor or other complications. If you’re wondering about whether you fit in this category, talk to your doctor or midwife. Most women have no trouble engaging in a little bedroom play with their partners. However, that doesn’t necessarily mean everyone is in the mood while pregnant. Sexual desire tends to fluctuate during our pregnancies, and can even become awkward or uncomfortable as our bodies change shape. Remember to maintain good communication with your partner, and keep in mind that there’s not just one way to stay intimate. Kissing, touching, cuddling and manual stimulation can provide a lot of the same closeness and pleasure that sex does, without the problems.
There are a few things that aren’t safe. Never engage in practices where your partner blows into the birth canal, since that can cause a blockage of blood vessels – potentially fatal for you and your baby. In addition, while it’s always important not to be intimate with someone whose history isn’t known to you, and who might be a risk factor for a sexually transmitted infection, this is a lot more serious with a baby on the way. You’d not only be putting yourself at risk, but your unborn child. If your doctor or midwife detects problems or feels that you might develop complications, you may also be asked to avoid having sex while you’re pregnant. Most commonly, this might be caused by a history of early labor, signs of a potential miscarriage, bleeding or cramping without explanation, amniotic fluid leaking from the birth canal, problems with your cervix, or a condition called placenta previa. If you’re carrying twins or more, you might also be asked to avoid sex with your partner.
It’s important to remember that in a normal pregnancy where these risks aren’t a big concern, sex can’t hurt you or your baby. Even having an orgasm won’t cause a miscarriage or unwanted contractions. You may find that your drive to engage in sex waxes and wanes, though. During the first trimester, many of us are too preoccupied with nausea, tiredness, sore breasts and constant bathroom breaks to be in the mood. By the second trimester, these symptoms have often subsided, and we realize that it’s been several months since we were romantic with our partners. This means that in a number of women, the sex drive goes up. However, by the third trimester, extra bulk, anxiety, and other problems might mean sex is the last thing on your mind.
Remember to check in and see how your partner is feeling, too. Some men find that their wives’ and partners’ changing pregnant bodies make them more amorous. Others have trouble reconciling sexuality with the impending birth of a child, and aren’t as interested until after the birth. For some men, desire comes and goes while we’re pregnant. Knowing how your partner feels and making sure he knows what your interests and moods are can go a long way to making sure things stay smooth in the bedroom. You might have to try new things, too. For instance, many women find that their breasts are too sensitive to be touched much, or that they aren’t interested in aggressive sex while they’re pregnant. If you’re still feeling amorous late in pregnancy, different positions might be needed to accommodate your growing belly. Experiment, and remember not to get stressed about your sex life. What goes on in the bedroom is meant to be fun and to help us feel closer to our partners, even while we’re pregnant.